Things about LIFE that I’ve learned from my Webcam Model Job
- #LourdesModels perspective: EveMartini
EveMartini
The people on the other side of the screen are, themselves, people!
You can learn a lot from being a Webcam model. One of the biggest plot twists I have encountered on my cam journey was discovering that the people on the other side of the screen were, in fact, people. Of course, sex is a huge part of the business, but I realized an even bigger element is the emotional labour which brings up an emotional response in order to foster a sense of authentic intimacy. I’ve found that in most cases a person’s desires can be traced to a very specific moment from their childhood, meaning they’re deeply ingrained and frankly quite permanent. It’s fascinating! A live cam website happens to be a safe place to exercise those needs without being condemned as a freak. After exploring countless worlds via webcamming, I found myself much more comfortable in my own skin, despite the fact that many consider this business and the models who practice it without self-esteem. I believe that this business has made me 1000% more confident in myself and in my unique qualities. That being said, I believe that because of this business I have discovered myself and my positive and negative sides in terms of communication, first of all, but also in terms of the feminine side that every woman is searching for.
RheaAnderson
Being a Webcam Model doesn’t just come down to undressing in front of a camera!
When I started my journey as a webcam model, I was an insecure person, didn’t knew much about my aptitudes and how much I can give to others, or what others can offer me, and I don’t mean that only in a sexual way. Being a webcam model made me a better person. First of all, I gained a stronger feeling of trust in myself and what I can do. I discovered that knowing people around the world gives me such a feeling of fulfilment, interacting with others and knowing about different cultures makes me happy and even if I didn’t get to travel to that country made me feel like I was there just by talking with different people and hear their stories.
Being a webcam model doesn’t only come down to undressing in front of a camera. You need to be creative and use your imagination, you need to be consistent and dedicated, which also means you develop a lot of skills and become a better version of yourself. It means you can also bring a smile on someone’s face and make someone‘s day better, just because you listen to what they have to say. You can build a very nice friendship, a connection or just be the shoulder to cry on for a lonely person. There are a lot of humans that are lonely and they just need someone to talk or listen to.
It’s awful that the society sees this industry from such a negative perspective. You can be a lingerie model or an actor and have naked scenes, and you get paid for that. This is the same. A plus is that you can improve yourself as a person, as a human being, as a soul.
AshleyWelse
A job through which you can discover yourself.
There are a lot of qualities you can improve about yourself one you have taken the first seps within this industry: your tolerance and empathy towards other people, the creativity and self-knowledge (which often times motivates us to become a better version of ourselves). The experiences of the people we interact with can become life lessons for us, just as life itself represents an experience where we are sometimes students, but also teachers. I believe that this job motivates you to improve all these qualities within yourself.
VivienneRuth
I’ve learned to love myself a lot more and also to aspire to a lot more!
The things about life that I have learned from my Webcam model job are: confidence, patience and consequences. I’ve learned to love myself more and to aspire to even more. I’ve learned to desire and motivate myself, to test my limits and explore things I have never tried in my real life because I used to be just as many others: I was hiding behind the screen, ashamed of my own thoughts. Being ashamed is not a tragedy, learning to embrace your fantasies is a virtute and a quality. You can discover another version of yourself only by listening to someone else’s story and finding yourself in it! I’ve learned to appreciate people and their weaknesses, to help them find both beauty and pleasure in what they think it makes them weak. I can be myself, showing my natural beauty but also my creativity. I can be childish, naughty, sexy or laugh a lot! But in the end, I'm the actress in my own story and every day is a challenge and a new beginning for me♥️. So let’s see what will tomorrow prepare for me. 🙈
EvieRose
I discovered how a woman should behave, being delicate, feminine!
For me being a webcam model, it meant a lot as I started when i was kinda young, at only 20 years old, raised around many boys in my neighbourhood and also being around them mostly in high school more than around girls, being passionate about cars, my behaviour was more masculine than feminine, or at least that’s how I see my evolution.
So, first of all, I discovered how a woman should behave, being delicate, feminine and not changing my personality, but changing the way I look and dress now, learning how to be a woman.
How else you can learn to be soft and delicate if not around some wise people like the ones I found by just being online? At this point, I can also say, my English is better now, just by talking daily. One of the most important things for me is that being online I've learned to speak, to say what I think and to quit being shy or maybe an introvert. Now I can speak my mind, I can have arguments and that happens also in my real interactions with people in my life. Now I can speak my boundaries and stop situations that I believe are not good for me.
At this point, being a webcam model, it’s not about having a job but it is something that helped me become who I am today. I am still learning to build discipline and patience, but from the beginning until today, I can see my progress even in everyday life situations. I know it should be mostly about sex but for me it wasn't like that. I've learned so many things about countries, cultures and many other things, also speaking about my country and feeling that, in a small way, I can share information and show other people things they didn't know. It made me feel useful.
I can say in the end that I would never change this decision I made. I’m grateful for this process, with its ups and downs and this helps me be a better version of myself every day, even testing some of my limits or choosing to cross some boundaries I have.
LilouMoulin
It is a job that allows me to make a decent living by just being myself.
I have just started my journey as a WebCam Model, but after doing my research and finding out what it is really about, I knew it was something I wanted to do. As a model, I was able to create beautiful connections and memories in such a short span of time. It is a job that offers so much more than any other job. Every day is a fun roller coaster and you never know how it’s going to go. It is a job that allows me to make a decent living by simply being myself, that helps me develop my conversational skills, and changes the way I look at certain things, especially at myself. It made me realize there is someone out there that enjoys each part of me. It’s a job that offers freedom, not only financially but also creativity-wise, as every day I get to choose how I want dress and how I want to inspire the people watching me. As a young woman, joining this industry has opened my eyes, and I couldn’t be more grateful for it.
Nathaniela
I don't think there is any other job where you learn so many things in such a satisfying way.
There are so many things that I could say about how my life changed since I’ve become a webcam model that I could probably write pages. I don't think there’s any other job from which you can learn so many things in such a satisfactory way. I know there are many preconceptions about this job, but I wouldn't choose any other. Life is pretty much as you make it and as you want to live it. Being a webcam model taught me that life is not always perfect for everyone, but in a few online moments, I could really turn it into around for someone else who is in need. When I’m saying me, I mean the real me. If there’s something this job taught me is that I can be natural, I can be who I really want to be. Being online I can express myself and also help others to express themselves in ways they cannot do in real life. Life as a webcam model is about discipline, strength, compassion, independence, vulnerability, thriving in difficult times, and love, a lot of loving. If you don't love what you do, why would you even do it and cry for what could have been? It is during our hardest times that we must focus and remind ourselves that there's still tomorrow and for a cam model, every day is a new day in which you can be the best version of yourself. This job can teach you a lot about friendship, listening to others and understanding them, supporting them and speaking without expecting a reward.
MissyJolie
My biggest reward is the emotional versatility.
Life’s lessons are often found in unexpected places, as I always say, and for me one of those places has been my journey as a cam model. I started not very young, I would say at quite an advanced age and every single moment since then helped me in that particular phase of my life, discovering myself and turning me into the woman I am today: strong and financially independent. But there are a lot of things to say as being a cam model doesn’t only mean to undress in front of camera. You need to be creative and use your imagination, which helps you discover a lot about yourself. Interacting with a diverse audience had deepened my capacity for empathy. Engaging with people from different backgrounds and walks of life has taught me to listen actively, understand their perspectives and foster genuine connections. I always liked helping people, and I am grateful I can make every day at least one person happy and put a smile on their face. As a cam model you are also involved with a lot of emotions, from excitement to vulnerability. This experience has taught me to manage my emotional states effectively and channel them into my work in a positive way. This newfound emotional versatility has proven invaluable in dealing with the highs and lows of life outside the camera… One of the most unexpected but beautiful gifts from my webcam modeling job has been the friendships l've formed. The relationships I've nurtured have taught me that genuine bonds can be formed based on shared interests, empathy, and mutual respect, irrespective of conventional norms. As I continue on this journey, I carry with me the wisdom gained, forever grateful for the transformative impact it has had on my perspective. And to sum up, every day is a new challenge and can be fun if you do it with passion. ❤️
